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Sons and Mothers

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Resposting and Renamed: Blog post title: How do we really want our boys to be?

My youngest son, who is now 19, and me.

Updated the title from “How do we really want our boys to be?” to “Sons and Mothers.”

But I ask, how do we really want our boys to be?

Twenty-seven years deep into raising two boys and two girls, and now three grandsons, it is clear, still, that we have lost sight of not only gender realities but we can now be whatever gender we want. I do not agree with this at all. In fact, I can see the progression, how we are where we are now as a society, that is, as it relates to raising boys to men! In the last 30 years, we created this monster.

“The problem for boys is not that mothers are confused by them. Mothers, today and throughout history, are simply part of a culture. And it is our entire culture that is confused about masculinity and therefore about how to raise boys…so if mothers are to be helped…it is also a society as a whole that must clarify the best way to support our boys as they grow toward manhood.”

William Pollack

The author continues:

“If we really think carefully about it, many of the qualities today’s mothers are trying to develop in their boys – far from being “feminine” qualities or qualities that women will tend to reject in men they choose to love – are actually the very qualities most of today’s women seem to be urging their male partners to develop.”

William Pollack

It is amazing the irony of it all! Ladies, the men you raise will one day be another woman’s man.

In future posts, I will explore the “monsters” I tackled when raising two boys.

One response to “Sons and Mothers”

  1. Marcia Johnson Avatar
    Marcia Johnson

    I love your blog page Michelle! Its so informative. Thank you for sharing such meaningful heartfelt thoughts!


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